This is class 3 of HOW TO START PARENTING THE HEART OF YOUR CHILD: FREE PARENTING CLASS
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It’s easier to build up a child than to repair an adult. Choose your words wisely. – Unknown
Maybe committing to consistent, daily quiet time and going deeper in prayer are nothing “new” to you. Either way Mom, I do hope you’ve found some new approaches and encouragement in class 1 and class 2 to keep pressing on and into Him!
Today in class Number 3 we’ll look at How To Communicate When Parenting The Heart Of Your Child
Learning to communicate with our children is no small task! It takes commitment, patience, humility, and prayer…. much prayer! But, having real, meaningful conversations and clear communication helps build the parent-child bond in so many amazing ways!
It should really be no surprise then that it’s also a top heart parenting struggle I hear from Moms.
But don’t worry friend!
As an “over communicator type” navigating this parenting journey myself, I hope to share some practical tools and encouragement with you today!
Here are 5 Keys to Help You Communicate When Parenting The Heart Of Your Child
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
#1 Yep, Prayer!
I know, I know. But I can’t not make this #1. Just hear me out! Prayer is a HUGE key in how to communicate with your child.
Praying that God would give you the words to say. That He would bless you with the patience to handle their heart and give you an open heart to share with them. Also, praying for their heart to be willing to communicate with you.
It’s also important to note praying with your child. I believe having intentional times of prayer with your child helps to cultivate a soft and open heart.
Praying with them keeps our hearts humble. It shows them the areas that we need to work on and that we are not afraid to ask for God’s help with our struggles.
It puts a quiet space between us both that only He can fill and helps establish God as the one to go to in all circumstances. On the other side, prayer with her also unites you both like nothing else in life. It’s a good thing all around!
(BTW if you are looking for some encouragement in praying for your daughter, I found an incredible resource for Moms of Girls I Love this!
Because we loved you so much, we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well. 1 Thessalonians 2:8
#2 No Topic Off Limits
It may not be the most comfortable of positions to take with our kids, but in my heart it is necessary. The world isn’t afraid to tell them anything, so I believe we should not be afraid either. I want to be the go-to source for questions, even on the hard topics like this and this.
By encouraging them at an early age to ask me whatever they want, I hope to set a firm foundation for discussing the harder life topics to come.
Let us, therefore, come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16
#3 Ask Good Questions
Yes, as much as possible. When they’re little they will usually have about 10,952.4 answers for every 1 question you ask, but it establishes a great habit for your relationship as they get older and don’t want to talk as much.
It also won’t seem weird or uncomfortable that you are asking questions. They will be used to it. So ask away… even if you get an eye roll as they get older. This also teaches them that it is ok to earnestly ask God questions. Also how to seek Him daily.
If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame. Proverbs 18:13
#4 Listen Actively
It’s what we appreciate from them and I often forget how much they appreciate it in return. Listen actively.
This means all the pieces to the puzzle. Eye contact. Stop doing. Ask questions. Repeat back things they say so that they know you are listening.
This all goes a long way with them, especially in larger families or bigger groups when it’s harder to do.
He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy. Proverbs 28:13
#5 Be Transparent
When someone is transparent with us, it encourages us to open up.
This isn’t any different with our children. They appreciate knowing Mom doesn’t really have it all together and is not going to just pretend. They grow in empathy when they realize that you are battling something. They know what our real family looks like in the day-to-day vs the social media picture. Plus, they’re often quicker than we give them credit for so no sense in covering it up!
Believe me, Mom, I know it’s tough. It’s hard to spend time and effort to communicate with their hearts when all you feel like doing is throwing out a “because I said so”. But communicating with the heart is what God does with us. We can trust that it will be worth it to make the effort and be diligent in communication.
Your Challenge is this:
Once you have taken the step above, please do this…
Tell someone. Accountability is a good thing.
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Don’t miss the other parts of the 5-day Parenting Class!
Don’t Miss the Other Sessions in the How to Start Parenting the Heart of Your Child: Free Parenting Class!
- The Best Place To Start In Parenting The Heart Of Your Child
- Mom, Are You Scared to Pray When Parenting The Heart Of Your Child?
- How To Communicate When Parenting The Heart Of Your Child
- What Is Parenting The Heart Of Your Child Really?
- How To Tackle Hard Issues When Parenting The Heart Of Your Child
Resources to Guide You in Your Plan:
Joining you in the in’ between,
Talk to you soon,
O Lord, You have pleaded the case for my soul; You have redeemed my life. Lamentations 3:58