Do you view Christmas as a season of happiness and joy, or one of grief and sorrow?
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Often as we approach the Holidays, the grief of missing loved ones becomes a heavy load. I lost my Mom unexpectedly 17 years ago. I’ve experienced the roller coaster of emotions, pain and heartache that can accompany this time of year.
With grief, there is a line I seek to walk. A line that includes remembrance leading to God’s peace and joy.
But I need to be intentional. If I cross that line and go on my own, it can lead me to sadness and despair.
My hope and prayer are that we can walk this line together and experience His peace that passes all understanding. The peace that can come, despite the pain, when all is surrendered to our loving God.
Over the years, I’ve found it helpful to have some direction from others.
To encourage you with some practical tips today, we’re going to look at 5 ways to Remember Your Loved Ones During Christmas.
1.God’s Word and Prayer
Stick with me while we lay a quick foundation. Number 1 has to be God’s word and prayer. Remembering our loved ones who have passed begins with giving our hurts to the Lord.
There is no substitution when dealing with issues of the heart.
He is the only one who can truly change our thinking, lift up our hearts and comfort us in our pain. This transformation happens more easily when I’m spending time reading the Bible and talking to Him in prayer.
Please don’t be intimidated into thinking it has to be a long complicated process. Don’t skip this because you fear you might not do something right.
Even reading and praying through a verse each day can help in a big way. I’ve created 20 Free scripture cards to help get our focus back on Christ. Click here to join our community and download the bible verses cards for free.
There are so many things you can make, and you don’t need to be crafty! Create items for your own home, or to give as gifts of remembrance. Make cards, scrapbooks/memory books or ornaments. You could create a memory wreath with items that remind you of days passed. Or get the kids involved and make a memory chain. Start with the makings of a basic paper chain garland and before you put together, write a memory of your loved one on some, or all of the strips!
As time inevitably adds a layer of distance, I love to rekindle feelings and thoughts of my Mom by sharing memories. Because she never met her grandchildren, this has become one of my favorite things to do with our kids. Talk about their likes and dislikes. Share stories verbally or write out events in a storybook or memory jar. These can all be simple ways to help you feel a bit more connected once again.
4. Share Photos
Some people save special photos of their loved ones to put out only during the Holiday Season. There are also TONS of other great photo gift ideas like photo mugs, calendars, pillows and more. Photos can help remind us to be thankful for the time we spent with the ones we so dearly miss.
5.Start New – Old Traditions
Start new – old traditions in their honor. Make meals or a dish that they used to make. Listen to their favorite songs or Christmas music. My mom used to take the long way home at night to look at the Christmas lights, so now we have a night to do that with our kids! It’s also fun to give others gifts that were either her favorite things or gift that she would have given.
These 5 tips are just a few ways we have sought to remember our loved ones during Christmas.
There are many great ideas online, but I’ve found the best ones by asking others coping with grief themselves.
Above all else, if you are hurting this year, I want to encourage you to take a step towards Him. Just one, even when you feel you can’t. He is faithful to help you walk that line. It’s ok if you need to pull back from some events during this process, but please don’t pull back from your loving Savior. Ask Him to help you as you wrestle. He is there for you.
I pray friend that you’re able to trust your heart this Christmas to the Lord who cares for you!
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18
Before you go, can I pray for you? Please send an email or contact me on social media- I would be honored to pray.
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I’ll be there with my girls… see you there!
Talk to you soon,
O Lord, You have pleaded the case for my soul;
You have redeemed my life.
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