A Letter To The Mom Who Can’t Afford Christmas Gifts
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I know we haven’t met, but I woke up with you on my mind.
In fact, God hasn’t let you off my heart. I have been praying for you.
You see, I know the feeling. The weight of providing an amazing Christmas for your kids.
You love them so much you wish you could give them an ideal Christmas…
the one everyone else seems to be having.
In the movies, in the commercials, in your life – all around you.
But the bills are piled up and the money is not there.
Over the years with our 5 kiddos, we have had Christmases of all types. There have been abundant times, and times where we simply could not afford Christmas gifts.
I know enough myself that the circumstances don’t matter so much, the aching heart is the same.
Please know you are NOT alone! I want to share with you what I have experienced and what I have learned from other Moms as well.
What Can We Do When We Can’t Afford Christmas Gifts?
Please understand I am not minimizing the reason behind your struggle, I am addressing the heart and focusing on what you can do now.
The hardest thing I have had to learn was also the most simple. As believers, Christmas is totally, completely not about the gifts you give.
It’s easy to say, but much harder to realize. At least it was for me.
Christmas is about THE ULTIMATE GIFT. The birth of the Savior of the world. Mom, I promise you, if you share that with them this Christmas there is nothing greater.
It will outlast any plastic toy – IT WILL have an eternal impact.
Once my heart was completely
wrestled submitted to God in this, I was able to pray that He would open my eyes.
And looking back over the years I am completely astounded at what I have seen!
God Has Provided So Much More than the Christmas Gifts I couldn’t Afford!
Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen. Ephesians 3:20
- His provision came through gifts of encouragement and time spent with loved ones.
- He provided money for bills, meals, clothes, gas for travel and presents — so many things over the years!
- The top item on every kid’s Christmas list was provided when I walked into a consignment shop with $7 for each!
- He provided gifts for the kids by being randomly chosen to Shop With A Cop!
- He provided car repairs and car prep for traveling to visit family!
- God provided time off of work for Dad when we thought there would not be any!
And here is the amazing part. It was through prayer and through His people – NOT anything to do with us!
We have rarely asked for any help. It’s not easy to be in that spot, pretty pride busting. But we wrestled and prayed and He knew.
We have been abundantly blessed by incredible family, amazing friends, and even strangers who felt that God was leading them to give in some way or another. For that, we are eternally grateful!
The Best Christmas Ever
His provision of the material needs (and wants) for our family is more than a miracle and worth sharing. But I can’t stress enough, friend, that it is not the point.
This is why…
I was pregnant with our 5th child, right before Christmas when I was hospitalized for an entire week. I nearly died. But by God’s amazing grace, we were both given -again- the gift of life.
And I came home, still pregnant, right before Christmas.
It was shaping up to be a less than Hallmark Standard Christmas. I had been very sick before the hospital stay.
The Christmas shopping wasn’t done.
The decorations weren’t all the way up.
The food wasn’t shopped for and we certainly didn’t travel to see family that Christmas.
But we had the Lord and we had each other!
My husband grabbed a pre-lit Charlie Brown tree. The kids decorated it so well with handmade ornaments!
Gifts for the kids were sent to our home from family and friends.
Food was made and treats were eaten.
And our faith grew. And we were together.
There is nothing better than that.
I want you to know that He wants to offer us encouragement when you can’t afford Christmas gifts!
God is available. He wants to be your comfort!
So, Mom, I share this in hopes to encourage your heart. You are not alone, I am praying for you. I know other Moms are too. Your kids just may even grow up to be grateful for the times your Christmas was not Pinterest worthy (unlike the world seems to tell us).
But as much as you want to provide a great Christmas. I have to ask you something with my whole heart.
Will you please let God lovingly define a great Christmas for you – on His terms?
I can’t promise you what He will provide, but He promises you He will never leave you or forsake you. He is there with you and knows your aching heart. Will you give it over to Him?
And if you do submit your expectations to Him, He just might blow you away with His gracious abundant love time and again!
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Talk to you soon,
O Lord, You have pleaded the case for my soul;
You have redeemed my life.
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This is for me. This is our 2nd Christmas with no gifts at all. This has been the second hardest year on our lives, but it’s ok, because things are changing and though we want not have anything left for gifts, all of our bills paid. We know it will be better beach year, and our kiddos understand.
God is good, and He always provides what we need.
Thank you for the encouragement my sweet friend, love you always.
Sweet friend thank you for sharing. It can be so hard. You are not alone. I am always praying for you and your family.
Lily Harder says
I needed to hear this today. I’ve been having such a hard time…. I needed these reminders, and to remember that I’m not alone. Not only are there other people who understand and are going through the same things, but God is right next to me. He’s holding me up and giving me strength and peace. Thanks for your encouragement and God bless each of you who is reading this. God is good, ALL the time.
Hi Lily! I’m so sorry. I understand. You’re absolutely right that God graciously gives us His strength and some sweet reminders that we are not alone. He is so good. Amen. Thank you for stopping by and I am praying for you!!
Ana Willis at TheyCallMeBlessed.org says
This was so written for me. I’ve been here thinking that for the first time we’re spending Christmas with my brother’s family and we can’t afford to buy any gifts. Such a hard place to be, not that Christmas is all about presents because it is not! My kids are used to a very simple Christmas and to only one affordable gift every year but not my nieces.
I’m so glad you were encouraged Ana! It really is such a hard place to be. I’m so thankful that you and your husband and kids know the true meaning and focus of Christmas-and I just bet God will use your contentment in Him, as a light to your brother’s family! I am praying for peace over all and a very blessed Christmas friend!
Thank you for such beautiful, loving words. I’ve been there so many times in the past, this year was shaping up to be similar, but at the last minute, God provide us with the means to give our four kids the presents they want and a wonderful Christmas. Even if it’s not always a “Hallmark” Christmas, it’s the time together that the kids will remember.
That is so awesome Ginny, thank you for sharing ! It’s amazing how He provides above what we were hoping. You are absolutely right about what the kids will remember ?! I’m so thankful you enjoyed the letter ❤ Merry Christmas !