How to Destroy the Roots of Shame in Your Life: I am not enough
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The eye traffics in feelings, not thoughts – Walker Evans
The lie of “Not Enough” comes at us in so many directions.
It’s said we see a staggering number of 5000 images and ads per day, it’s no wonder these doubts start to sink in.
We are influenced by the world in
- What we need
- What we should look like
- What media and entertainment to consume
- What to eat
- What to wear
Essentially we’re told who we are to be – and that’s just with images.
What about what we are listening to?
Media, people at work or school, friends, and even family.
Those whose opinion we seek out and those who offer it unsolicited.
It comes from people we trust and some we may never have met in person.
Each day can leave us feeling overwhelmed, defeated and like we don’t measure up.
Down to the Roots of shame
There are often key moments in life where the stage is set. Soon, the Lie of Not Enough becomes the star of our show.
As a child, it may take center stage as the divorce of your parents or abandonment. Being told you are too tall, short, fat or skinny. Maybe bullying comments about your appearance or your passions for certain hobbies. Did your friends choose others over you because you didn’t have as much money or similar interests?
The lie of not enough sets in when we don’t cling to the character of the God who created us.
Maybe, like me, you fight back the only way you know how. You begin to perform. Grasping at anything that may resemble something of value in this world.
The Lie of Not Enough flows into your adult life.
If I was skinnier, taller or shorter I would be satisfied.
If I had different hair, eyes, skin tone, teeth, no freckles or no wrinkles I would be perfect like her.
If I could serve more often- God would love me more.
If I were a better Wife, Mom or Homeschooler I would feel I’m enough.
If I made more money, I wouldn’t have so many problems.
If I had that house, vacation or car, then we would finally be happy.
But for now, I am Not Enough.
When we focus on not being enough, we can become negative, depressed and live with a victim mindset.
We can also idolize something potentially good. We will take our relationships, roles, bodies, jobs or possessions and make them our identity. We begin to create idols out of the good in our life because we live on the foundation of ‘not enough’.
Friends We Need to Stop believing the Lie!
Here is the truth today {and every day} my sweet Sister in Christ-
God says you are his workmanship
As You Are! He didn’t make a mistake with you, He knows exactly how He created you and what He created you for!
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. Eph 2:10
You are His
You are not enough because of what you have done, but because of what Christ has done for you. God looks at you and sees Christ in you. He has called you by name and nothing can separate you from His loving grasp.
But now thus says the Lord, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. Is 43:1
You don’t need to measure up
You are totally accepted in Christ. Completely and entirely accepted – flaws and all!
The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him. Rom 8:16-17
You are chosen
The creator of the universe chose YOU! Your worth is not dependent on what the world says. He says you are precious!
As you come to him, a living stone rejected by men but in the sight of God chosen and precious. 1 Peter 2:4
You are created unique
Your gifts and passions are designed for a unique purpose that He picked for you. When we trust His design for us, we can experience joy and lead others to Him!
And please remember this because as women we struggle ALL THE TIME…
You being enough isn’t going to change if you can or can’t fit into those skinny jeans.
You are beautiful
That after baby body? It’s enough. Your thin/wiry/curly or straight hair is enough. Those large or small eyes/nose/ears are enough. Having blemished skin and a wrinkled smile means you can be enough.
Those things that drive you crazy about your appearance? Yes, they are enough.
I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. Gal 2:20
The things you long to change that can bring you down in a second if you dwell on it, are not deciding factors of you being enough.
We must continuously look up to see our worth. We need to ask the one who created us if we are enough, not everything else around us.
And friend, with Christ in us, His word tells us He will forever answer with a resounding yes.
I’m so thankful you’ve spent a few minutes redefining the idea that you are Not Enough. Now let’s not stop there! There are FREE Worksheets that will walk you deeper into what this Lie looks like in your life and gives you some verses to combat against it 🙂
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As always, please let me know any prayer requests or how God is working in this in your life!
Will you continue to join me in this 5 part series on How to Destroy the Roots of Shame in Your Life?
How to Destroy the Roots of Shame in Your Life Overview
How to Destroy the Roots of Shame in Your Life: I am unlovable
How to Destroy the Roots of Shame in Your Life: I am not enough
How to Destroy the Roots of Shame in Your Life: I am not perfect like her
How to Destroy the Roots of Shame in Your Life: I am hopeless
Talk to you soon,
O Lord, You have pleaded the case for my soul;
You have redeemed my life.
Lamentations 3:58
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