The Best Way to Move from Girl Mom to Mentor + Giveaway!

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How many times has your Tween Girl moaned “My life is over” as she storms out of the room? Ahem… how many times today!?!?!?!?! 12 times today and it’s only 10 AM. We are in the transition from little to Tween. She needs a different parenting style from me in this more mature stage. I have to Move from girl mom to mentor.

Titus 2:3-5 Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.

Parenting is seasons and stages

When they are babies they need us to do everything. But as they take each new step toward adulthood they need to learn how to do everything for themselves.

I don’t know about you, but I am trying to hang onto those moments where they need me. Those moments are few and far between as they stretch for Independence and it makes me both joyful and sad.

When do we Move from Girl Mom to Mentor?

You know your girl, but the age of a Tween is 8-12 – which is quite a span. Some girls are more mature earlier, some are slower to blossom but it is good to check in and gauge her maturity.

Some indicators your girl is ready to be Mentored instead of Mothered:

  • She understands some biblical truths
    • Maybe even questions them
  • She is pushing all the boundaries reaching for independence
  • You see peer pressure alive and well in her choices
  • It seems she cares what others think of her
  • She is clearly a leader or follower already
  • The Drama and attitude are reaching teenager proportions
  • She is a chaotic ball of emotions (dare I say hormones)
  • You notice her trying to problem solve
    • Her problems and yours

These are just a few things that indicate she needs to be Actively Mentored.

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A mother is focused on:

  • Meeting every need and want
    • Often before they complain
  • Behavior modification
    • Obedience is key here
    • Discipline is involved
  • A mother corrects (maybe even nags)
  • The child it told what to do and expected to follow direction

But a Mentor is focused on:

  • Heart Attitude
  • Discipleship
  • Spiritual Preparation for adult life
  • Growing you to the next step in life
  • A mentee is asked to help solve the problem
  • Independence is taught – to take care of yourself and help serve others

There is an awkward in-between stage. Children take steps toward independence and often step backward – afraid of what they thought they wanted. That is why I Advocate Mentoring.

The Best Way to Move from Girl Mom to Mentor

For years I was told I would never be a mother. God showed me the joy of being a Spiritual Mother.

Today we call that Mentoring.

That looks like spending time getting to know a women. Taking time with her One on One to talk about the real things in her life. Finding tools and resources to help her grow and mature – until she is ready to Mentor another woman.
We started the process of Mentoring with our girls early – just to test it out and get them used to the idea. This is what it looks like:

  • Each month we take a morning away from the house (one on one).
    • It is crucial that it be a fun neutral place where they won’t feel like a little kid but a young lady.
  • We spend time talking “Woman to woman” about whatever they want to talk about.
    • No mothering allowed.
    • I bring the friend side of me – just listening, encouraging and asking questions.
  • Then we transition into what we are studying in the Bible together
  • We talk about real prayer needs
  • To end our time we transition back to fun girl time – just to enjoy each other.

We’ve used several studies over the past few years and Absolutely Loved Lee’s Girls Created to Shine Study.

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Girls Created to Shine is a Great Mentoring Tool for Tween Girls

Personally, I love a deep Beth Moore Bible Study, but my Tween girl cannot stay focused that long. She needs a quick win in her Bible study time. It has to be Fun, Fast and Relevant to her world!

Girls Created to Shine is not all teachy-preachy but it does cover real topics that girls face in today’s world. You can take it at your own pace and drag it out over the course of a year if you meet monthly.

There are Fun Girl Activities in the study that have Biblical Application. My Tween Girl’s Favorites (Which she still pulls out to do together) are Smoothie Recipes & How to Give a manicure!

The Study is easy to use and relevant to her world which made it a Win-win for us!

We’ve used Brave Beauty and Lee’s Fruits of the Spirit Printable as well as Sara B’s Trust in the Lord Bible Journaling Tool Kit and so many more!

The Point is to find that balance with your Tween girl. Knowing when to switch from Girl mom to Mentor.

Building a relationship that will last as she leaves the nest one day. Preparing her to make the real-life decision. And what better time than in your home where you can catch her if she fails!  

Don’t get me wrong, there are still lots of times she needs me to be the Girl-Mom, but I know I’ve gone too far back in that direction when the whining and “My Life is over” pop up.

Is your Tween girl ready to Move into a Mentoring Relationship with you? I have a Printable to help you get started down that path! You will both be blessed and it’s not complicated ( promise you can do it and God will equip you!)!

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In HIM,
Tiffany

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2 thoughts on “The Best Way to Move from Girl Mom to Mentor + Giveaway!”

  • I love how you encourage mothers to mentor their daughters. So many moms don’t take an active role in shaping the spiritual lives of their daughters.

    • Yes! I agree Susan! She did a great job of sharing what to look for and how to be that active role in their spiritual lives! It’s so important. Thank you for reading 🙂

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