“Do as I say, not as I do.”
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I understand Mom. You truly want to teach your children Godly Character but often you fall into the trap above.
I have been there. I get it.
But I’ve also learned one key thing.
If teaching Godly character in our home isn’t done intentionally, it likely won’t happen.
Sure they may pick up some good things here and there but they need their parents to be intentional and provide a path of character training for them.
I promise this doesn’t have to be just another “parenting thing” to add to your list.
I believe we can build a foundation for training our children in Godly character in a connected, relatable, day-to-day way (with some added times of “instruction” that we can make fun!)
Now even though I believe we can build it naturally into our day, we aren’t off the hook yet – (are we ever? :))
Making the choice to be intentional in building Godly character should begin with our hearts. Modeling Gods character to our kids and praying that He would grow our entire family in His character are fantastic starting points! (#MomTip yes you will mess up and thankfully He gives us grace)
Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity. 1 Tim 4:22
We also need to “fill in” the intentional part…
Here Are 3 Ways to be Intentional in Teaching Godly Character + A Giveaway to Help!
Teach the Character of God
How do we teach Godly character if we don’t know the character of God? Simply said we can’t. We need to understand His character and teach from His heart.
Remember the times of “instruction mixed with fun” that I mentioned above? Yes, this is where that comes in 🙂 There are some amazing resources to help you teach your kids Godly Character in fun and interactive ways! Dig in with them and you will all grow together! Take even 10 minutes a day to focus on character – you won’t regret it!
Use Teachable Moments
In case you haven’t known me long, you should know I am a HUGE fan of teachable moments! These are opportunities naturally provided in the day-to-day. You can use the teachable moment to show them practically the character of God. Remember this isn’t always lecturing or nagging instead making a connection between the heart and the character trait!
Let’s say you notice your child working hard on a project and see they are getting a bit frustrated but are keeping at it with the right heart. You can jump in and praise them for being diligent!
Maybe they have freely offered forgiveness to a sibling – take notice and praise!
And for those times where they are not behaving well, correcting their hearts with scripture is a wonderful way to teach them God’s character.
Even though our kids can be a “ball of emotions”, I want to encourage you to hang on to empathy. When we can help them to understand and process their own feelings, they are more likely to show concern for other’s feelings.
Showing concern for others feelings will help them greatly in growing in Godly Character.
Honesty, Friendliness, Patience, Thankfulness, Reliability and SO many other character traits can be encouraged through empathy.
We can ask good questions to help them make heart connections as they arise.
- How would you want someone to treat you in that situation?
- Can you think of a way to encourage them?
- How would you feel if you were them?
- How do you think God would want you to respond to your friend?
As we guide them along day by day we can continuously refer them back to the character of God!
Yes, Mom building Godly character can be tough. It can be much easier to answer quickly instead of taking the time to dig into that teachable moment. It’s easy to fall into the “too busy” trap when it comes to intentional times of instruction. But as many Moms ahead of us in the game will say – it is worth the hard work when the fruit comes!
So don’t give up. Keep on being diligent – see what an example you are already? Wink!
Let me know in the comments how you struggle in this area and I would be honored to pray for you!