Where I Got Hung Up When My Girls Were Growing Up
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Where I Got Hung Up When My Girls Were Growing Up
Raise a godly girl? Raising a girl is hard enough!
What does raising a godly girl even mean?
Does it mean raising a girl who is loving, joyful, peaceful?
Yes, these are all characteristics we hope to see developed in our girls; exactly what we teach our girls to become.
But what about words like … strong, brave, confident. Those are all good words too; adjectives that we would like to define our daughters one day as well.
And then what about other words? Words like girl power. Those can’t describe a godly girl … can they?
And that is where raising a girl who honors God can get all kinds of confusing … when “girl power” comes in.
Is it an either/or when we want to raise a girl to become a woman who is like Jesus, not only in the way that He was kind, compassionate and loving, but also bold and courageous?
A difference maker?
Last year, I studied God’s word to find the answer to this conflict I felt; this wrestling in my heart.
Strong or gentle?
Bold or meek?
I found my answer in the women of Exodus – Shiphrah and Puah, Jochebed and Miriam (Exodus 1 & 2), the daughters of Zelophehad (Numbers 27), Deborah and Jael (Judges 4), Abigail (1 Samuel 25) and Sheerah (1 Chronicles 7). I could go on for so long!
The answer is not either/or; it is “and”.
A godly woman is both.
Our calling is to raise a girl full of gentleness, faithfulness, self-control and she is a strong, bold, difference-making brave beauty.
My own daughters, both social work majors, have shown me where I got hung up when they were growing up. I didn’t know the true definition of some words that can be used to describe strong women. I saw division and I always want to line up with Jesus and His word. I still do!
In the past few years, my girls have taught me, as well as modeled before me, what it means to love Jesus and be strong. I was missing what God was all the while saying in His word.
God was the one who said, “For the LORD your God is God of gods and Lord of lords, the great God, mighty and awesome, who shows no partiality and accepts no bribes.” Deu. 10:17 (NIV) as well as Acts 10:34-35 “Then Peter began to speak: “I now realize how true it is that God does not show favoritism but accepts from every nation the one who fears him and does what is right” (NIV). Then there is Galatians 3:28-29 “There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.” (NIV)
I am so thankful that my eyes are opening to the purpose Jesus has for us, as women, in the earth today. I am so glad that I can encourage my girls to follow hard after what God requires of us as His representatives:”He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” Micah 6:8 (NIV)
Friends, the body of Christ needs our daughters to be the next generation of women who will change culture; change the world. You and I are raising the next Catherine Booths, Harriet Tubmans, and Esthers. Our job is to show them these strong role models in Scripture and in history, that they can emulate today … and to be those models for them as well.
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I also prepare girls to:
- Overcome confidence-defeating thoughts and stand on who Jesus says she is.
- Shape her self-worth on Christ and overcome the temptation base it on environmental factors.
- Build a strong foundation to face the fickle and flippant opinions of others.
- Find approval of herself even when she lacks the acceptance of others.
- Find security by turning to Christ as she steps through the exciting, yet scary world of growing up
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ARE YOU A BOY MOM?
If you were to write a letter to your future daughter-in-law’s mom what would it say? What would you want her to know? Amy Michaels of Those Clever Moms for the Raising Godly Boys event shares her heart in Dear Mom of My Future Son-in-law! This sweet letter will bless your boymom heart!
∞ ABOUT THE AUTHOR ∞
Lynn Cowell is a Proverbs 31 speaker and the author of several books, written for women of all ages. Her newest for young girls is Brave Beauty: Finding the Fearless You and a Bible study for women Make Your Move: Finding Unshakeable Confidence Despite Your Fears and Failures. Lynn calls home North Carolina, where she and her husband, Greg and the occasional backyard deer are adjusting to life as empty nesters. Along with their three adult children, the Cowells love hiking, rafting and anything combining chocolate and peanut butter.