Raising Godly Moms: Your Home is a Training Ground
I know what you are probably thinking “my daughters aren’t moms”. But they will be someday. The time to train and impart knowledge of a biblical worldview and unshakable faith to our daughters is fleeting. A majority of us were not raised to be godly moms and are now trudging along wondering what exactly it looks like to bring up godly mothers. Being young daughters in Christ, we are learning right alongside our girls, which usually results in a lot of mom fails. And that is okay.
We often miss the mark, while still pruning ourselves and this can get messy, but that, sweet mama is motherhood. Real moms aren’t perfect. You may be discouraged and not know where to start. It’s par for the course though. So don’t let it hold you back. You will look back one day, realizing that God had you all along.
Raising Godly Mothers
What do you want to be when you grow up? a mom.
What??? Well, what about college??? What about a job??? My career choice is to be a mom.
Well, that’s not a real career, that is just what you do when you get home. UGH!
Being a mom is a calling and a career that is not highly respected or even considered a REAL job at all, and it should be. I’m definitely not saying your girls or my girls cannot pursue a career outside the home, that is completely their choice, but they will most likely be moms one day anyway, so if we train them to be godly moms they will be a bit more prepared when the time comes.
When or if they decide to stay at home and be a mom they won’t feel the shame that the enemy throws at them. The world says that raising your kids is not enough. That you need to work outside the home and raise your kids too. This is the norm. This is what is expected.
Disclaimer: Before I go any further, I just want those of you hard-working moms that work away from home to know that I am not bashing you at all. This is intended to lift up those that are not working outside the home because we need it.
Being a mom is like having four full-time jobs without the paycheck and that is not stretching it. We rarely get breaks and are on call 24-7. We work late into the wee hours of the morning and get up before the sun. Hmmmm. when do we actually sleep again?
So why do we do it?
- Yes, we don’t get paid in cash, but the rewards are priceless.
- Okay, so we are tired all. the. time. but have more memories from all the extra hours we are spending with our kids.
- We never get to pee privately, but we are needed by someone all the time.
- And yes we hear a constant chorus of bickering, but we also get to witness our kids respond with compassion and empathy.
- We may not have a lot of time to relax, but I wouldn’t miss a moment of my daughter’s life for anything.
- They aren’t perfect, but they are mine, gifted and entrusted to me by God. Training them up the WAY they should go is my calling and my career and I love it!
- I will never go back! Now that I have a relationship with God and my calling is to homeschool and be with them all day, I don’t want any less for my girls. It is such a blessing to share everything with them on a daily basis that I pray I pass this legacy on to them.
Make Your Home a Training Ground for Raising Godly Moms
Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. – Lamentations 3:22-23
God is Not Looking for Perfection!
It’s time for moms to be freed from the weight and lie of perfectionism. God knows that we are flawed and doesn’t expect us to be perfect. He uses our failures and weaknesses to drive us straight back into His arms and His GRACE. God can turn our failures and obstacles into something amazing. After all we are not raising supermoms, we are raising godly moms.
Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: – Proverbs 31:28
Let Them Rise Up and Call You BLESSED!
They are watching you – mom. What do they see? Kids will pick up and echo our behavior. Show them what living godly looks like. Read and pray right in front of them. I know this may be difficult because we want quiet time with the Lord, but if they don’t witness it, they won’t echo it. Speak kindly about and to others. In your prayer time with them pray for a family member that is going through something. Pray with strangers that are hurting and give to those in need. Teaching your daughters to care for others is so important.
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. – Proverbs 31:25
For Every Problem, There is a Scripture.
If your child has a headache, teach them to pray and stand on the promises of healing. When your kids get into an argument teach them to pray together and forgive each other. If they are feeling empty, nourish them with the Word. Your kids will learn to run to Scripture/Jesus for every circumstance.
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. – Matthew 6:33
Priorities are Everything.
Many mom struggles come through simply prioritizing wrong. As a parent, you would think that your kids would come before your husband, but that’s not true. God first, marriage second and then comes the kiddos. If I’m being honest I’ve struggled with this too. But what I’ve learned is that if our relationship with God hurts, then or marriage hurts, if our relationship with our husband hurts our children hurt. This is why it’s important to have our priorities in check. Teach them by example to prioritize their relationships with Jesus as the cornerstone. The earlier they learn how to live a Christ-centered life the less junk they will have to root out in their future.
Rejoice evermore. Pray without ceasing. In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. – 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
Thankful, Grateful and Blessed!
Wake up shouting Praise God, this is the day that the Lord has made, we will rejoice and be glad in it. Okay, I know this may sound a little over the top, especially when you aren’t feeling very rejoice-y in the morning! But humor me and try it. You will start to feel it. The power is in saying it even when you don’t feel it. And your girls will echo this too.
God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day. – Psalm 46:5
Show Them You are Happy.
This can be a toughy at certain seasons of life. I know I struggle. But let them see that you enjoy them and life. That you take pride in your housework and motherly duties. If you are grumbling that the house is a mess and you really don’t feel like making dinner they are going to never want to be a mom. I know this from experience lol. Fake it till you make it. Well, you know what I mean. Do everything, as if doing it unto the Lord and this will help you start to truly enjoy your job. Pray and sow good words through those hard tasks and you will reap joy!
May the favor of the Lord our God rest on us; establish the work of our hands for us— yes, establish the work of our hands – Psalm 90:17
Let Them Get Their Hands Dirty.
This can be a challenge through the training process, but it’s important to teach them the ins and outs of running a household. Include them in the meal planning, cooking, cleaning and all the little details that go into the well-oiled machine. They will appreciate you more and learn so much in the process. If we raise our girls to know that they are strong and competent with everything that has to do with being a godly mom, it will be a natural transition for them when the time comes for them to carry on the torch. I created a Bless Our Home Chore Chart complete with a chore guide by age.
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. -Ephesians 6:10-12
Teach them to Stay Armored Up!
We are fighting a spiritual battle every day against a real enemy who wants nothing more than to steal, kill and destroy. We have to teach our daughters to armor up and how to discern the tricks and schemes of the devil. Our girls are going to go through many trials throughout their life. But if they know how to stay armored up before the attacks even come, they will be ready and stand on their faith through the battle instead of being blindsided and lose ground.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. – Jeremiah 29:11
God has an amazing plan for you and your daughters. Talk to Him about it and ask Him to guide your steps. This is the ultimate way to raise our girls in a godly way. Because His way is ultimately the only godly one.
Do You Want to Raise Godly Moms?
Be a godly mom. Seems like this goes without saying, but needs to be emphasized. You can’t grow apples on a peach tree.
As godly moms, we go through seasons of trouble, hardship, unrest, hills, and valleys. How we respond is everything. If we can train ourselves to respond in a Christ-like manner to our children and to anyone else in our near vicinity we will grow and in response, our kids will echo that in their own walk with the Lord and in life.
I know what I’m saying may seem impossible to some, but if we put effort towards allowing God to change us, we will find that it gets easier every single time. Don’t allow condemnation to get a stronghold though. When you slip, (and this will happen) dust yourself off, forgive and keep moving forward.
Do you have any tips for raising godly moms?
FOR THE BOY MOM
Raising Godly boys is challenging enough, let alone in the awakening of a gender crisis. The media is filled with articles on how to accept and encourage children’s choice of gender. What?
∞ ABOUT THE AUTHOR ∞
Forest Rose is a God Loving, Blessed Wife, Author, Etsy Shop Owner, Keto Diet living, Relaxed, Eclectic Homeschooling Mama to a Trio of Girls – 8, 10, & 12 in Indiana. She’s passionate about lifting moms out of the homeschooling trenches that are discouraged or overwhelmed. She loves hanging and chatting it up with other homeschool moms in her free and exclusive Facebook group “Homeschooling 101 Community” started to help new homeschoolers thrive. Read More…