Confessions of a Stay at Home Mom
Hey there! This week I’m blessed to be able to share something special with you! My heart for this ‘lil corner of the internet is to share the “real” parts of life –
You know, the good and the hard..
Let’s share the 30 bad pictures of the kids it took to get that one we actually did show the world 😉
My prayer is that in some way, we could walk through our battles together and that you would be encouraged and glorify God in the process.
Because I could never pretend to be “all things to everyone” I’m honored to invite some amazing sisters in Christ on here from time to time to share their walk with you.
A different perspective to speak to your heart may be just what you need today! So grab your coffee and enjoy. I hope this blesses your day as much as it has mine!
Oh yeah and please don’t forget to share the encouragement and comment below 🙂
Confessions of a Stay at Home Mom
Sunlit window’s backdrop the worn brown swivel chairs in my childhood home.
My mother sits on one of them, sipping her coffee and I look at her in frustration.
I tell her, “ I will never wear my hair long for my husband or be a mom!”
I dug those words deep into my heart.
I wanted to be different, special, smart and modern. No one was going to hold me back to be a simple common housewife.
Twenty years old and I left my Midwest home to pursue my artistic and theatrical dreams in New York City.
I lived there for seven years and in that time I experienced deep Christian friendships, so much art, auditioning, rejection, school, first love, first broken heart, loneliness, 9/11 and God’s love.
When I left, it was with a heavy heart that I said goodbye to friends who had become my family and a city I felt was part of me. It was time. I felt it was time to leave in my heart.
My hair is long because my husband likes it that way (I do too) and I am a common mother/housewife.
Oh, sigh what a tragic boring outcome, yet another feminist bites the dust. Typical woman giving into the lack of control and giving into the monotony of motherhood.
A couple of years ago I would have agreed with these thoughts.
God and motherhood showed me how wrong I was.
Somehow I knew that if God blessed me with a child, I would be a stay at home mom. Because of this I was not sure if I wanted children. It took me time to even consider having kids.
Seeing my friends struggle with infertility and the healthcare system classifying me as geriatric age made me think it was now or never. My husband and I both agreed we did not want never, so we thought let’s just see what happens.
What happened was a beautiful baby boy.
That beautiful baby boy was so much more to me than I ever imagined feeling for a human. He was also so much more work than I ever imagined, that’s right, I do mean work.
Caring for a child is not rocket science or the most physically challenging (although there are times), it is an overwhelming experience of non-stop responsibility. There are no sick days, no breaks and no appreciation for a job well done. There are however plenty of hugs and kisses for my heart to feel full.
It was not a simple change for me to become a mother. The first year as a mom I struggled, I was not getting much sleep, financially for years we had been struggling and not many of the friends we had in the area, had kids.
In time, I started attending a woman’s bible study and it was then my heart started to melt. These precious two hours of time every Tuesday morning with gorgeous, mighty, Godly women of all ages from the early twenties’ to eighties.
All unique, all on a different walk with God.
In studying the bible so intensely, for the first time in my life, I was starting to really get to know my God for whom He is, not what I wanted Him to be.
When my heart and mind started to know Him better, there was no other place for me to focus my heart then on Him. With that came a will to do His will, not my own. Yes, there are days I put the focus on other things but usually, those are my bad days.
I then must lay down whatever it is that I think I must prove and acknowledge I am a daughter of God, nothing more and awesomely nothing less.
What I want to tell you is this; By being a stay at home mom I have been able to start creating again, for the first time in almost a decade since I moved back from New York City.
I have found ways to weave creating into my day. I now have the energy to be creative, I have the support from my husband and my son gives me inspiration daily. I have been able to create more since my son was born two years ago than I have in all my life.
I believe that it is by God’s grace and care.
I am no famous artist, but caring for another human so dependent on you tends to realign your thinking. We are not here for ourselves but to care for others, especially those who cannot help, care or fight for themselves.
That is God’s command in the Bible “To love one another.” “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
Imagine if we did this, if all humans today on this earth did this. If we did, I have a feeling we all might get the chance to live a dream or two.
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It’s stories of God’s amazing work like this that gives me goosebumps!
So now, I have two questions for you today..
Who do you know that could use this message today ?
Share the encouragement with a friend on social media!
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Do you or does someone you know have something to share about God’s amazing work in their “everyday life” ?
I’m betting yes! If you’re willing, I would love to talk to you!
Please, send me an email and I’ll respond!
Talk to you soon,
O Lord, You have pleaded the case for my soul;
You have redeemed my life.
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