A Letter To The Mom Who Can’t Afford Christmas Gifts
I know we haven’t met, but I woke up with you on my mind.
In fact God hasn’t let you off my heart. I have been praying for you.
You see, I know the feeling. The weight of providing an amazing Christmas for your kids.
You love them so much you wish you could give them an ideal Christmas…
the one everyone else seems to be having.
In the movies, in the commercials, in your life – all around you.
But the bills are piled up and the money is not there.
Over the years with our 5 kiddos we have had Christmases of all types. There have been abundant times, and times where we simply could not afford Christmas gifts.
I know enough myself that the circumstances don’t matter so much, the aching heart is the same.
I also know you are NOT alone! I want to share with you what I have experienced and what I have learned from other Moms as well.
What Can We Do?
Please understand I am not minimizing the reason behind your struggle, I am addressing the heart and focus of what you can do now.
The hardest thing I have had to learn, was also the most simple. As believers, Christmas is totally, completely not about the gifts you give.
It’s easy to say, but much harder to realize. At least it was for me.
Christmas is about THE ULTIMATE GIFT. The birth of the Savior of the world. Mom, I promise you, if you share that with them this Christmas there is nothing greater.
It will outlast any plastic toy – IT WILL have an eternal impact.
Once my heart was completely
wrestled submitted to God in this, I was able to pray that He would open my eyes.
And looking back over the years I am completely astounded at what I have seen!
HE HAS PROVIDED MORE!
Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen. Ephesians 3:20
- He provided gifts of encouragement and time spent with loved ones.
- He provided money for bills, meals, clothes, gas for travel and presents — so many things over the years!
- He provided the top item on every kids Christmas list when I walked into a consignment shop with $7 for each!
- He provided gifts for the kids by being randomly chosen to Shop With A Cop!
- He provided car repairs and car prep for traveling to visit family!
- He provided time off of work for Dad when we thought there would not be any!
And here is the amazing part. It was through prayer and through His people – NOT anything to do with us!
We have rarely asked for any help. It’s not easy to be in that spot, pretty pride busting. But we wrestled and prayed and He knew.
We have been abundantly blessed by incredible family, amazing friends and even strangers who felt that God was leading them to give in some way or another. For that we are eternally grateful!
The Best Christmas Ever
His provision of the material needs (and wants) for our family is more than a miracle and worth sharing. But I can’t stress enough, friend, that it is not the point.
This is why…
I was pregnant with our 5th child, right before Christmas when I was hospitalized for an entire week. I nearly died. But by God’s amazing grace, we were both given -again- the gift of life.
And I came home, still pregnant, right before Christmas.
It was shaping up to be a less than Hallmark Standard Christmas. I had been very sick before the hospital stay.
The Christmas shopping wasn’t done.
The decorations weren’t all the way up.
The food wasn’t shopped for and we certainly didn’t travel for to see family that Christmas.
But we had the Lord and we had each other!
My husband grabbed pre-lit Charlie Brown tree. The kids decorated it so well with handmade ornaments!
Gifts for the kids were sent to our home from family and friends.
Food was made and treats were eaten.
And our faith grew. And we were together.
There is nothing better than that.
I want you to know that there is encouragement for us when you can’t afford Christmas gifts!
God is available. He wants to be your comfort!
So Mom, I share this in hopes to encourage your heart. You are not alone, I am praying for you. I know other Moms are too. Your kids just may even grow up to be grateful for the times your Christmas was not pinterest worthy (unlike the world seems to tell us).
But as much as you want to provide a great Christmas. I have to ask you something with my whole heart.
Will you please let God lovingly define a great Christmas for you – on His terms?
I can’t promise you what He will provide, but He promises you He will He will never leave you or forsake you. He is there with you and knows your aching heart. Will you give it over to Him?
And if you do submit your expectations to Him, He just might blow you away with His gracious abundant love time and again!
Do you know someone who would be encouraged by this letter? Please share!
Talk to you soon,
O Lord, You have pleaded the case for my soul;
You have redeemed my life.
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